I know that there are no set rules as every sitch is different and every person is different but any help would be appreciated!
Boundaries are key to this. You current boundary is that this is OK behavior for your husband. Imagine if the roles were reveresed and you were talking to a friend, "He knows I am having a affair and he's OK with it. I get the best of both worlds without any hassles."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
