Peace, Your h has a ways to go and he's not at the point where you can actually be "friends". He's still in replay and the depression has a very strong hold on him. From your posting, I suspect he's got some major withdrawal going on too.
I know that you would have liked to have had a different ending, but sometimes the ending is written differently by the man upstairs and we have no control over it.
You, like all of us here, were the fixers. We were the ones that took care of everything and they didn't have to do the real work to make the relationship and all areas of their lives better. The crisis in many instances will change that for them and then some will realize what they had and lost; others won't and they are the ones lost forever.
You did the best you could and you have nothing to feel guilty about. You had to find a way to survive and for the business to survive. I would have done the same as you when it came to the business. Please so not feel guilty about your decisions. Remember, he is a grown man who should have taken steps to work on himself and that included seeking medical attention. However, instead of doing the real work, he choose the path of least resistance and ran.
In time, he will want to be friends, but the time is not right at this moment. Be patient. Keep the focus on you, your family and the business.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
