It is a tough place to be in but it is best for the girls to get to have both you and them. You don't have to excuse or forgive their behavior for you to give this gift to your girls.
Forget the (stupid) game-playing. This is your chance to be the wonderful father you are. You can be polite to them, without forgetting what they did.
Its only manipulation if you view it that way. This is your chance to show off your changes and focus on your girls. They have their reasons, their feelings, and so do you, but the girls are the important ones here.
Maybe I'm not understanding something. Is she offering these things in exchange for you giving the girls up additional time/days? You can nicely accommodate, or politely decline, and still go to the birthday party, or have the in-laws come to the concert.
If you get so hung up on WHY the wife offered these you will miss out on the joy of the moment. Remember about filtering what you hear and making your own choices about what fits for you? (Phone convo)
Originally Posted By: K4D
No,
I don't have any plans. D12 has a choir concert after school that I am attending and W and her family are attending. After that they want to do a birthday dinner at 7:30.
This really sucks the position they are putting me in. I know about plenty of other things they have been doing this month when W has had the girls, and not one phone call or text about inviting me. Now because I have the girls, I am all of a sudden invited. How am I supposed to feel about that. I am alreadying thinking about how uncomfortable this is going to be for me being with the family that wrote me off and banished me, knowing I am only there because they want my girls there.
I am really uneasy about going myself. I am almost half tempted to just tell them to take the girls and I will have them another night. Why do I want to be around people like that after the way they have been to me this past year and basically still are by simply trying to maniuplate me to get what they want.
Kevin
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
