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Good news: YES

I have not yet had the pleasure to meet anyone here yet whose situation quite parallels mine:

XW left for OM, we knew we both had our hands in the breakdown of the MR, but XW refused to accept her blame, ran with the WAS script, "it's all your fault", but always wanted to talk and try to be friends, I stood my boundry, I can't be friends with my (then) W while she is with, even later on engaged to someone else. At the times, it felt like she was baiting, maybe was to an extent.

Our D got particularly nasty over over the kids and was final half a year ago. Within a month, XW finally expressed true regret for her actions and that D was'nt the answer, and hinted at remorse. She did FINALLY accept her faults, but still carried much anger and angst that I cared not to deal with, and just went on with life for myself and to be the best "part time" parent I could.

Life this way slowly ate away at her and here we are now, the past 4 weeks, talking, she's dumped OM, been to family dinners for the first time in 15 months, and have been out several times together, essentially 'dating', finally talked out all of the issues in one sitting without wanting to kill the other, and really laid the MR problems to rest where they belong and take this as a new relationship.

I should say, the 'spark' NEVER left. You know that look in you spouse's eye that says everything the mouth doesn't have to? We never lost that, and I NEVER got the ILYBINILWY shapeal, actually the exact opposite, she always said she loved me still.

We;re not out of the woods yet, still some issues on my end with OM and weither or not I can forgive mutual friends and family on her end for their support of the A, but in all, we are moving in a forward direction.