loving distance

[courageous wife]

I posted previously under "here's another story". I was reading on here about "keeping a loving distance" and am looking for ideas on how to do that. H is still living at home, works nights so we don't see a whole lot of each other but when we do, I try to always be busy and upbeat. He acts almost normal on the weekends when he is home but during the week he is distant and quiet. I believe this is because he works with OW.

We talked a couple of weeks ago and he is still trying to make a decision between the two of us. I would still like to see our marraige work as I do still love him and we have the 2 kids to think about. I am planning to hang in there until after the holidays and then am going to set some boundaries which I will probably also need help with. I have read Puppy Dog Tail's sitch and the boundaries he set and plan to follow along those lines.

I know that there are no set rules as every sitch is different and every person is different but any help would be appreciated!