Im'e thinking what you said didn't set you back and good for you to take care of her and have empathy about her not being able to go with you instead of being mad that it ruined your plans.
When your "animal desires" take hold find a way to take care of them without bringing someone else into the R
Remember slow and steady wins the race. And I don't mean it that way if your mind is in the gutter Doc.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez