So now she's spying on me? This just gets wierder and wierder.
not at all. she wanted to know if this woman was prettier than her. normal, typical, expected reaction.
I think it is time you set up a one on one social interaction on a evening where you would need to ask your wife to switch nights with the kids (that is they cant sleep at your place and you will have to pick them up late in the afternoon the next day). Come over dressed to kill and flirt abit but then run out the door. Magic 8 ball says your cell phone will be ringing all night long.