Found out yesterday W has been extremely sick. W went to Doc and perscribed meds. Found out from friend that W is not spending much time with OM (prob because she is sick).
Should I read anything into this?
I don't know exactly how you mean that. Are you saying that it is a positive sign b/c she isn't spending time with OM while she's sick? IDK, but she may not want him to see her when she's not at her best.
You will be able to read "something" into "everything" as long as you are putting too much of your thoughts/attention to her and OM.
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I can't help but feel that when I went Dark, my W went double Dark
First....it hasn't been long enough, second.....your attention is focused too much on her instead of other areas in your life. At first, it seems she does go dark b/c you were the one making all the contacts. But keep doing it and then she will draw closer to you, in time.
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Oh BTW.... I did tell her family about the A and how messed up it is. They already know and ave told her she needs to quit it.
They are trying to get her back in church...
If you are exposing your W's A in hopes that pressure from her family will cause her to go back to you, then I think you'll be disappointed. The more pressure they put on her about church, etc. at this time, will probably result in more rebellion. She feels that you and her family are interfering in "her" life. I know that sounds crazy, but that's how she feels.
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As for the A; makes me feel like she deserves everything she gets...
That's the anger and it's normal, but for your own sake....don't allow it to eat you up.
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Do WAW really ever want to come back???? Mine is not hiding her A from anyone really... maybe a little....
Let me explain something about exposure...from the WAW's POV. If she's exposed to everyone....what does she have to lose? I mean, why would she try to hide it if it has been exposed? In my case, if I had been exposed to everyone....I am pretty sure I would have moved to be with OM (who lived out of state). Which leads me to your next question.
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d can someone explain to what exactly the "Fog" is?
Have you ever tried to drive a car in fog that was so dense that you could not see the front of the hood on that car? That is what it's like for a WAW. Yes, her brain is flooded with those false "in-love" chemicals, but her thinking is so screwed up that it is like driving in the fog. When a LBH asks why she can't see what she's doing.....that is why.
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Will my W's crash and want to return
The A will probably crash & burn. As to the question about her wanting to return.....that mostly weighs on you. How you respond to the things that are happening now. Again I use the exposure for an example......be careful how you do that and what you say about her b/c it can come back to haunt you if there is a reconcilliation. Just as the A will be an issue....so will the exposure--if you tell everyone about her A.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
