One day at a time....

[Deep]

I know what you're saying rocked ... I think many of us do. The "rough days" will come, sometimes triggered by memories or places or things. In a way, knowing what happened in the A has a price.

I asked the same question you asked of a senior couple in Retro early on in my sitch. As she put it: "You're past the worst, and you're strong enough to deal with the truth, so here goes - it'll never go away." But with time, the suffering fades, particularly if you give it up to God, and you come to accept it as part of a process to be a better person, and as part of a possibly stronger M.

Till today, I still feel "it" when I think about stuff, that my W had forever made me a "betrayed spouse", had once chosen another above me. But each individual can then make a conscious choice to let that go, recognising it as a "fog" of sorts too, and to focus on the here and now to make the future better.

As a Christian friend of mine reminded me, Jesus took the humiliation of being spat upon and utterly debased before His death, and yet still prayed for the forgiveness of his tormentors. If you are a Christian, do you put yourself above Him then, that there are insults you cannot rise above?

Never easy of course ... but there you go.