Forward I thank you for your reply, as you say and I feel I did good to offer my place as a meeting point for ex and son on xmas day, it was an offer for sons sake not mine, it got turned down, I wont be offering anymore, I truly feel that ex isnt bothered about his child and it is again getting less and less that he is seeing him, so be it, if thats what ex wants let ex have that, I am not bothered at the end of the day, me and son will have christmas together I only tried to help, regards my friend