Moving on with my life!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

And S2, your d's problem with her bf is a RED FLAG for you. OMG her fears and trust issues come across as needy and probably controlling to her bf so she's undermining her R with him and that comes from your experience!! Come on, straighten up and pick yourself up and dust yourself off...what signal do you need, to see that your behavior is having an effect on your children? IT IS!
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Your d thinks she has to have a bf or she's unworthy (Where'd she get that idea?) and she's worried that her bf will cheat b/c he's out with the boys and instead of choosing to be with her friends for a chick night out or a chick flick evening at home, she's frantic and hurt...it's urgent that you show them stronger healthier behavior...NOW.

I do believe that we have influence on our children, but have you seen teenage girls? wow. I remember a friend of mine, brought up in a very loving, extremely stable (her parents still happily married) christian home, but my friend was still insecure. she was so needy to guys that they practically ran away from her soon after they started dating.

Of course SO2's actions will help, but many times this is a personal trait as well as a lifelong learned trait. For me, I was in an unstable home, parents divorced at 14, my mom was devastated forever and took years before recovering from it, and I was the exact opposite of my friend.

I say SO2, because I don't want you to feel like your D is acting like this just because of you. Why not take this time to learn together perhaps? Being a teenage girl is hard. Everything in the world tells us that we aren't good enough, and that's so scary, and that's why so many girls get pregnant.

anyways, SO2, I'm really happy that you got to go out!! even if it was in the rain. hey, it could have been freezing rain!

can I suggest a book? Hung by the Tongue. I have heard this author speak and it was so convicting for me. He is a christian, and the book is definitely christian. If somehow you can find a speech of his, do, I liked listening to him more than reading the book, but the book is not long, much shorter than Michelles. But I can see that you were like me. It is easy for you to see the glass half empty. I really think this book will benefit you. What we focus on in life, is what is going to develop. We get to choose to zoom out and refocus or not. I'm learning that myself. It can truly change your life.