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Thanks buddy. Guess I was getting a little too cocky and this is someone's way of bringing me back to reality.


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Sorry GIMA, not what I meant at all!

Don't dismiss those happy feelings either! Cherish and accept them when you have them also. They are true and your entitled to them also!

Just when you notice that you are sad or wondering why you were happy before and not now when your W is coming back, accept that given the situation your feelings are going to fluctuate and work on accepting them in the moment for what they are, just feelings and just thoughts that cause them..


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No, I got what you meant. I was just making a bit of a joke and an observation.


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Are they home yet, GIMA? Did you make a good weekend for yourself?
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Not yet Greek. They get back tomorrow.

Had a great weekend. Hockey game Sat night - 1st one for me in years. Went into OT and the home team won.

Grilled a great filet tonight

Sadness kind of jumped out of the blue after call from kids and very briefly W. Better now, but it was there.

Picked up. The book Elf On The Shelf with the elf doll to give to the kids tomorrow. Already hid the elf.


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LOVE Elf On The Shelf!!!!!!! Big fun!

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Yes, it looks like fun. I thought it would be something new and something that would go with me after the D - sort of a new tradition for the kids and me.


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Yes, it looks like fun. I thought it would be something new and something that would go with me after the D - sort of a new tradition for the kids and me.


I like this for lots of reasons.


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Yes, it looks like fun. I thought it would be something new and something that would go with me after the D - sort of a new tradition for the kids and me.


I like this for lots of reasons.



Thanks man. Just trying to keep my head on straight.

She and the kids get back late this afternoon. She sent me an IM earlier this morning to tell me they were on the road. I responded simply with "That's early. Be careful."

I left two tickets from the hockey game out on the counter in the kitchen. If anything comes of that, no big deal. If not, no big deal.

I have a work function tonight (fundraiser), so I won't be home until later. W and kids should be home around 5:00. I have not yet told her about the fundraiser, and I don't think I should. Correct me if I'm wrong.

I have to work on treating her like a co-worker in whom I'm interested. This past week, I've politely ignored her. Just nothing to say. I feel lied to and misled with her flip-flop on MC.

At this point, I have accepted D is the most likely result, while still remaining open to working on the M if that presents itself. I just don't see that happening.

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We have followed similar paths. I too have come to a point where I am having a hard time ever seeing our M work out and/or having a happy future together.

I have talked to others that have been to this point and have made it to successful, happy M once again though.

Accept. Don't have expectations. But don't forget...anything's possible.


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