Don't dismiss those happy feelings either! Cherish and accept them when you have them also. They are true and your entitled to them also!
Just when you notice that you are sad or wondering why you were happy before and not now when your W is coming back, accept that given the situation your feelings are going to fluctuate and work on accepting them in the moment for what they are, just feelings and just thoughts that cause them..
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
Yes, it looks like fun. I thought it would be something new and something that would go with me after the D - sort of a new tradition for the kids and me.
Yes, it looks like fun. I thought it would be something new and something that would go with me after the D - sort of a new tradition for the kids and me.
I like this for lots of reasons.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Yes, it looks like fun. I thought it would be something new and something that would go with me after the D - sort of a new tradition for the kids and me.
I like this for lots of reasons.
Thanks man. Just trying to keep my head on straight.
She and the kids get back late this afternoon. She sent me an IM earlier this morning to tell me they were on the road. I responded simply with "That's early. Be careful."
I left two tickets from the hockey game out on the counter in the kitchen. If anything comes of that, no big deal. If not, no big deal.
I have a work function tonight (fundraiser), so I won't be home until later. W and kids should be home around 5:00. I have not yet told her about the fundraiser, and I don't think I should. Correct me if I'm wrong.
I have to work on treating her like a co-worker in whom I'm interested. This past week, I've politely ignored her. Just nothing to say. I feel lied to and misled with her flip-flop on MC.
At this point, I have accepted D is the most likely result, while still remaining open to working on the M if that presents itself. I just don't see that happening.
We have followed similar paths. I too have come to a point where I am having a hard time ever seeing our M work out and/or having a happy future together.
I have talked to others that have been to this point and have made it to successful, happy M once again though.
Accept. Don't have expectations. But don't forget...anything's possible.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.