Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Ok, I am on the ground at my post.
I am staying with a friend. When I landed my friend was there to pick me up-I didn't call W, called my friend. He drove me out to house. Front door was open, and we both went in.
W was asleep on couch, heard me and my friend come in, jumped I told her that I had evry right to be there, and she immediately called the post CG, and post CSM, saying that I threatened her-lie.
I called the sheriff, and waited peacefully inside.
My boys came bounding down the stairs, and I just hugged and squeezed them until I couldn't do it anymore.
Sheriff comes-he talks to both of us-she lies to him saying there is already a rest. order out for me-he runs my name-no order-of course.
Sheriff tells her that I can stay there if I want to but he told me he didn't recommend it. Meanwhile, W is calling everyone on my post, about me being there. I get a call from the rear det CSM, he wants to see me, so I pack up kids and go to post.
Get to post, he gives me a no contact order towards my W. No contact-nothing. So I am dark regardless.
Also, he tells me if she calls one more time about me-he is sending me back overseas. So, I feel like I have done something wrong.
Spent the day with my boys, was great except for all of the mistreatment they have received from my W. It broke my heart to hear the things she has said and done to them.
Both S's said they wanted to stay with me, during my R & R, and after-they don't like their M much anymore. I told them it really wasn't up to me anymore.
I am dead tired tonight, and I am sure I am missing some things. I have to tell you I kept my cool around W, and when I saw her, I felt...nothing.
She just looks tired, and used. My S tell me she drinks constantly, driving under the influence. There is so much. Oh, then she just volunteered to me that she had gotten a ticket/charged with open container while driving!!!
I really dislike this woman.
The OM chain gets the visit from my chain tomorrow. Found out the guy is a mid enlisted guy. It just disguists me. I am not exposing to W family until AFTER I go back overseas. If I do that, she will call my chain immediately.

Well, I am going to sleep, I will write more tomorrow. Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers.