One thing I did when she was in that 'I don't want to talk about it period' is I would wait for opportunities where infidelity was brought up (on t.v., co workers, etc) and I'd just throw out what Puppy likes to call "truth darts", and then I'd drop it. Not so much aimed at her, but at infidelity in general.
Thanks H4U, that's a good idea. And I will continue to work on my patience.
Sorry for the TJ Rocked, back to your sitch.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g