I want to add some comments, but also that I am no expert, just someone dealing with the same things at times, so I suggest you bring these up with your IC as soon as you can! If you can't get to your IC until mid January, you may want to look to find another, as that seems far to long to me!
I know you are confused right now, but he is showing you the classic narcissist chameleon.
That is why your seeing the weird sexual advances, and off color txt'ing alongside the "Mr. Nice" routine. Because his actions are not about you, they are about him. I know this, as I was there. I truly didn't know it, and your H may not either, but the effects on you are still there!
It's been said that after dealing with this, some people come out with symptoms of post traumatic stress syndrome. Don't take this lightly, after being in this situation!
I have brought some of this up before, but going to bring it up again.
As part of your GAL, I HIGHLY recommend that you go out to a bookstore, or get this book below and spend some time reading it. I don't recommend this book lightly, as there are things in it that I also highly disagree with, but the main focus of what you have been dealing with is truly in there! Don't be put off by the 'verbal' in the title, if you don't think you have been 'verbally' abused, it's part in parcel about emotional abuse as well.
Also, you may want to consider reading "No More Mr Nice guy" to get and understanding of where your H my truly be at, in my opinion. It is a book for guys and about guys, but there are connections to the 'Verbally Abusive Relationship' as well.
You ARE a classy and strong women!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
