how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Well, I feel like I deceived him because we met up thru Match.com and my profile doesn't say "recently separated basket case would like to see what it is like to go on a date. No long term romantic relationship desired at this point."

So we email, he's intrigued, I'm intrigued, we have a nice time, we put into motion meeting again.

I truly did put my profile up in a total manic state. Not at a good point on the roller coaster! I don't even want to go back to see what it says. Must sound at least vaguely sane enough for this decent guy to contact me.

So, cutterbug, I think your approach really sounds lovely, but I guess I am caught in "a date comes with the expectation that something might develop from it." Is it just me? does the rest of the normal world take cutterbug's attitude towards a date?

Remember, I'm 23 years out of the game! Where can I go read up on the rules again?