Can I save my marriage?

[Super Girl]

SG, I jumped to your thread and had a quick look. I'm sorry things have evolved that far with your H. I don't know what my advice to you would have been because it varies according to the situation.

This is exactly my problem. Everytime I read Gno's advice to you, I think that would never work on my H.

Did you ever try?

I could probably be walking around with another man, and my H wouldn't be affected. He claims he is not the jealous type.

That's what they all say (incl. me) until they get kicked in the nuts with it. The only time a man doesn't react is when he is DEEPLY involved with an OW.

However, I have never tested him.

See? How can you say it doesn't work if you never tried? Test him on it.

I find thinking about all those wonderful men out there

Sorry to burst your bubble SG. Don't look at the men on this forum as a general sample of the male population. The men here have been kicked upside the head. We were all "damaged goods" at some point. The difference is that we're learning our lessons... the HARD way.

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No worries on the evolution of my R. At first I thought I had a duty to my kids to try, but they seem to be adjusting, so I'm actually at peace with how things are going. I wish things could be a little less hostile, but that might come with time.

As far as the did I ever try to test him, no, I have never purposefully tried to make him jealous, but I do spend quite a bit of time with men, and my BFF is a man, and he has never had a problem with it. Even when things were great in the R, he has never been bugged by other guys. He thinks jealous people are weak and insecure. If you have a way I can test him, considering I don't see him, let me know. I'm game.

As far as an OW goes, everything has checked out so far. He is where he is supposed to be, no glaring cell usage, etc. If someone wants him with all his baggage and monstrous child support checks, she is welcome to him.

I didn't mean you fine gentlemen, not that you're not all perfectly wonderful, I mean the fabulousness that awaits me. Thinking about it is fantastic. I feel like a teenager again. lol