I can do my own tree- he offered to help, but I can politely decline on that matter. And I do need to make that break from him. Maybe I got distracted by his attentiveness. I wasn't expecting it, and I let my guard down. He used to be really sweet and nice when we first met and in the early years of our M, and I was seeing glimpses of that sweet guy again.
But I also saw the sexual dysfunction side of him too. He really wouldn't care if I slept with another guy right now. Like I said, he was encouraging me to set up my own profile and was giving me all sorts of tips- like making sure to screen out the unsavory guys, and "remember to block so-and-so because we met them and they were f***heads..." Typing this makes me wonder- WTF is he thinking? And why is he? And why the he!! did I let him carry on about it- that's him sucking me back into all the crap I was trying to get away from.
I feel like an idiot- intellectually I know I am more worth more than that. So you're right- I need help with from my IC in that maybe I just don't totally believe it.
