Counseling conundrums

[Greek]

But I think I do need time and help to figure out who I am- on my own and without H's influence; I have hardly begun to think about that one.

You will not know this ^ until you call a HALT to H's influence. You need more than time, Bunny, to figure this out. You need to keep him away from you. You have your own place, declared it your territory...and he's there decorating your tree???? If you really want to know who you are absent his influence ~~~ well, you know what to do.
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