Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

She's got reasons to be angry, the hatred on the other hand smells like spew.

I have no experience of this but selfless acts I think would only work when there are legitimate reasons for the hatred. When the hatred is just spew, then the selfless acts would probably make it worse (he's just trying to be nice - what a *$£!!)

Time mate. I think time is your friend here. She will eventually calm down when her brain engages and she discovers that it is just spew.

Just my 2p worth.