I can take it no more soldiers wife need help

[armywifevampi]

Is this good. Sorry i'm Spanish and its hard for me so i put all the words together.. Plus all I've been doing is texting.. I thank you




Well.. I kind of went to the dark side of my self again. I have not called but I did text last night .
Witch I know is a big no, no but I couldn’t help my self ….I guess for response.

Well did not happen and what I text him was harsh. This is what I text him...

I guess u choose her latter D sad that not even your own daughter u cant call but what u truly have I forgot is your family I forgot your!!!.... family not mine thanks for carrying or giving a s--t... nice to know your true colors came out with your new friends and girlfriend... sad when u let another life take something that never belonged there in the first place...

I did not stop there I was tiring to control my self. Did not happen the next one...

Luck with the kids...and to top it off... even worst .

I said happy anniversary for the 25 cause it looks like I wont be talking to u again I see... enjoy.

God I’m so so stupid for saying things like that but I’m just so so mad for him not wanting to listen to me I gave him all the time in the world . I feel he is not coming back and its just to pain full for me to let go so fast after 21years how can u give it all up so quick....

[bluerain]

Hi ArmyWife. You cant unring a bell, so dont beat yourself up anymore over the text messages. No, you shouldnt have done it, but we are all human beings, and we all screw up. We have all had backslides at least once. Have you done any research into a mid life crisis? He is a little young, but considering the fact that you guys started so early, it might help you to makes some sense of whats going on.

Now you can watch for things that make you do these kinds of things and avoid them. If you are really having trouble controlling yourself, take your phone apart, turn it off, take the battery out and lock it in the car. Figure out how to control yourself. lol. Its YOUR brain, and you are in charge of it!

Is your H having an affair? Im sorry, I didnt catch this before.

Do you live on post? Have you thought about starting up maybe a from-home business? There are lots of them, Avon, Pampered Chef, there are even some naughty ones that I always thought might be fun. Its a good way to meet people, and you could have parties at your house that would be lots of fun!

[Jstar]

On post there are tons of support groups for you to get involved with. I served 13 years in the Army with men and i can tell you some of their deployment rules are messed up.

It's like the Vegas saying, what happens in vegas stays, well some depoloyed me, not all say what happens on deployment stays on deployment.

there are men who are good upstanding gents and miss their wives and family immensely and count on them greatly during deployments.

What kind of sitch is he in? Combat zone? these are all factors that will play into the mind of a deployed soldier.

[armywifevampi]

No I don’t live in the post he’s in Korea over seas and I’m in Florida .
Trust me if I was there I can controlled it a little easer ... and I have a job from home and out side of work.

I’m a full time mom and soon to be a full time student and do my work from home from time to time .
I try to keep my self busy but it don’t help ... I still never got a response from him and I know im not going thro .

A mid life crisis he might im going in to a nerves breakdown. I set a appointment with my therapies tomorrow ... so scared first time but I need it to clear my mind from allot in my present and maybe from our pass... Remember we’ve been together going on 21years we got married at 15 and had our daughter at 16.

I think he’s going thro the mid life crisis.. don’t know what it means but I am going to check on it.
Well I’m going out tonight to a baseball game with my coworkers ... ? …..and what do I do with my mother-in-law...

I tried to talk to her once but she blew me off and change the subject.. do I stop talking to her and going over there... do I just call here once in a while from now on ... she don’t help much anyways ...

Well I’ll tell you how it goes .. Thank you …. If he calls which I know he wont im not going to pick it up…

[armywifevampi]

hello hes a 88m in the army in korea.... and he did miss me till holloween night everything started he left in july

[armywifevampi]

I was going to go see him in Jan. not sure I havent heard from him in 5days. But i know hes called his mom and not me or my baby girl...

[Jstar]

Ah he's a truck driver, probably not to fun if the weather is horrible in snow and wet and cold.

Korea is a kiiler on relationships. it's an unacompanied tour.

in the past korea used to be one of the tours that really sucked and unfortuanely the military has the saying of i did not issue a wife or family so you do go where we say for how long.

things kind of change with so many divorces that they are having to address it a little bit more now.

i too am a chronic texter to my h and finally i figured out it pushes him even further away. so don't send anymore texts that will come across as pushing him away, or in anger.

how has your relationship with MIL been prior to this situation? she may not want to get in the middle. that may be a good thing.

great you are busy and active, keep on going each day that way.

btw: if h has been in army for some time now, this is not his first deployment... how did his past deployments go in treating you? how is this one any different if it is?

[armywifevampi]

Its our first deployment... and its very hard on me ... at first it was on him ..

i spoke to him every day and he text me every day now after holloween is went this started... not texting me or calling me..

saying he loves me but not in love with me ..
pushing me away

im just tring to understand why... he just got promoted hes a pv2

i sometimes think its the buddies hes hanging with
all the drinking and parting all the time know

before he had time for me now he dont

should i still go and see him in Jan

[armywifevampi]

sorry pv3

[Jstar]

Oh the first deployment is quite an eye opening experience. you have been married for 21 years i think that is great thing all in itself.

it can be that since he's been married for still some of his teen age life and not ever having experienced some of the things we are supposed to when we are 18-25 all the imature drinking dating multiple people no responsibilities, he is now living that.

i don't agree with it, but he may not be able to control himself. he's lonely only has his fellow platoon memebers to hang with and they can influence him.

have you bought your ticket all ready?