I agree with what the above posters have said, but it goes beyond that. All this being up in your business, fixing things unsolicited, etc .... this is about control, pure and simple. Making sure he still has it. Making sure you still "need him".
He does not have two places, yours and his. YOU need to draw the boundary on all this. If you don't, sorry, he's not the only one to blame for not taking you seriously.
It's one of the skeeviest things I've heard in awhile. Please talk to your counselor about this. I still don't think you're quite clear on the dynamic, and no wonder considering your marital history.
Sheesh.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
