Well, now I am worse confused and feeling guilty and terrible.
A date does have expectations. If I were looking for an R; emailed back and forth; set up a meeting; fussed about what to wear and wondered--oh, maybe he's the one! And then to have him say: I'm not ready for an R. I'm just going out with people to learn and live life
I think I would feel I had been deliberately deceived.
Perhaps I should email something like this:
"Person, I really enjoyed our walk together. As I mentioned, I am just newly out of a long term R. I do not feel ready for a romantic relationship just yet. I do want to get out and meet new people. I wanted to be clear about this so you can make a decision about seeing me again, or not. I will understand if you do not want to see someone who is not yet emotionally available"
Would that be honest and fair?
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
