A cheated cheater

[bluerain]

My H received a no contact order. He was not to see the OW, phone her, or go within 300 ft of her home, workplace, or car. If he chose to disobey that, he would be disobeying a direct order. And the best part is... that non contact order is a pretty big deal, and it stays in their records forever. It could affect his ability to get his security clearances in the future.

I think that the main reason that it is rarely enforced is that there has to be some pretty substantial proof to back up the punishments.

I think that you exposing her to her family is very different from exposing him. I told on my ex to his command. At one point, he asked "Do you want me to go to jail?" I laughed "Do you want to tell me why I should care?" It was the only thing that I felt I had any power to do. And YOU arent getting him in trouble. He did a pretty good job of doing that himself.

I think that it is in your favor that the OW is in Va. My ex's OW was not quite that far away, and though they talked several times a day, things very quickly cooled off. It seems that a married woman who is willing to sleep with a married man, is also willing to take another boyfriend as soon at the first two men are out of town! She "cheated" on him and broke his heart. And I would be surprised if the OW in your sitch turned out to be more virtuous.