Is this the end of my marriage?

[Gnosis]

Gnu. Your a smart man. For you are a teacher as well as a student.

Thanks Cutter. I don't think of it as smart, more like experienced and willing to share it with others so they don't make similar mistakes.

I like the lists... BTDT from my side WRT to W. I see my question caused a bit of confusion, so let me rephrase it:

My only answer is time and selfless acts (or as selfless as they can be as there is no such thing). If you try and combat it, they will hate you more for it.

Maybe selfless acts... I really don't know. I must admit I'm stumped at the moment because I'm in the thick of it.

The missus is filled with hatred... Anger/hurt I can understand and deal with... its the hate I'm trying to figure out the best way to neutralize.

I've been leaning towards this:

My IC told me that people who separate tend to only remember the good things and forget about the bad things.

but if that route is chosen

Selfless acts the WAS will hear about and it will hopefully erode the hatred.

these will never be witnessed or heard of.

If I eject it will be to a location 1000's of miles away.