Is this the end of my marriage?

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P I'm kinda half following along... (sorry) One thing I can say is I'm impressed about how far you've come from day 1 here.

I'm impressed too. Pat on the back. I know I will slip and slide but it's all part of it I've now learned. When I get contact or hear about W, I will slide back the way, fall down, get up, brush myself back off and move on again.

Heaven help the next woman who get's involved with me

How does one combat/neutralize hatred? (In the WAS)

My only answer is time and selfless acts (or as selfless as they can be as there is no such thing). If you try and combat it, they will hate you more for it.

My IC told me that people who separate tend to only remember the good things and forget about the bad things. This is why many battered spouses return (he example not mine). That is time.

Selfless acts the WAS will hear about and it will hopefully erode the hatred. However, by doing the act to hope the WAS will hear about it negates it being selfless

That's my take on it anyway. I'm not a wise one.

@cutter, where the h*ll do you get this stuff from? If I didn't know any better I'd say you were a Buddhist?

Sometimes I think that maybe the WAS should come on here and read about the LBS. I think it would shake a lot of them up to see the strength emanating from a lot of these forums.