Thanks, TrentC and P17 for the advice.

I am confused...I hear I should go out and about; I did want to see what dating was like; but I am clearly not ready for a romantic relationship.

OK--so now I can panic about this--since I had a nice time with this guy and we said we would set something up for this weekend--do I now email him with just enough personal info so I can end with "not ready for romantic R"? Tell him I really enjoyed the time with him, but he should know where I am at. And then he can make his own decision as whether he wants to bother with me or not.

If you were this guy, what would you want to hear from me in this sitch?

I have the M v. V starting over book; I will take a look at it tonight.


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process