It's the same in my sitch. It DOES hurt me that WAH isn't doing much at all to spend time with the kids. He hasn't asked about Xmas or gifts and right now he is putting me through he!! by cutting off $. He is completely selfish and guilty. Doesn't seem to miss them or care about contacting them.
My buttons are my kids and he is really using it to hurt me.
Once you recognize it, you'll see how it's being used to hurt you. Just try to not let it--or let him see that he's getting to you.
It's the same here - he has not asked which presents I got so he knows what he can get the kids, nothing. It's so incredible selfish.
