Going dark is a parallel path. You protect yourself. But at the same time you protect what little love you have left for that person. A small opening in your heart for that day when you both decide to begin a new journey together. They will need that footing more than you. We were betrayed. Remember the following sentance.
1. You know that your lover will make decisions that impact your wellbeing and future without your input. Without dicussion. Without consent. 2. You know that your lover has boundary issues with the opposite sex. 3. You know that your lover has the capacity to become a phycological liar to support these decisions.
This is what we have to forgive. Do not freely give this away. This must be earned. True Remorse for ones actions.
You give this away. And you will have learned nothing. The only gift you gave will be bitterness. By one of you or both.
We were placed on this planet to live a fulfilling life.
Not to carry a torch for the person who lacerated our hearts.
Parallel path.
Its a very basic concept. One I choose to follow. Either way. I am victorious. The choices in this journey are many.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
