Avermont. I believe in a parallel path. You heal yourself. You move on. If you kept contact with the WAS. You would slowly deplete all love you have for that person. I don't know about you. But if I was chasing ladybug everysingle day since D-Day , I would have hated her by now.
Going dark is a parallel path. You protect yourself. But at the same time you protect what little love you have left for that person. A small opening in your heart for that day when you both decide to begin a new journey together. They will need that footing more than you. We were betrayed. Remember the following sentance.
1. You know that your lover will make decisions that impact your wellbeing and future without your input. Without dicussion. Without consent. 2. You know that your lover has boundary issues with the opposite sex. 3. You know that your lover has the capacity to become a phycological liar to support these decisions.
This is what we have to forgive. Do not freely give this away. This must be earned. True Remorse for ones actions.
You give this away. And you will have learned nothing. The only gift you gave will be bitterness. By one of you or both.
We were placed on this planet to live a fulfilling life.
Not to carry a torch for the person who lacerated our hearts.
Parallel path.
Its a very basic concept. One I choose to follow. Either way. I am victorious. The choices in this journey are many.
A choice in paths
1. Wait hope he takes me back. 2. Wait get bitter ( which has the following ) 2a. he takes me back and it does not work out 2b. he takes me back and you spend the rest of your life walking on egg shells because you have not delt with your issues and the adultry 2c. he does not take me back so you remain alone 2d. he does not take me back so you repeat the same mistakes. Same bed , different body.
Or.
Heal myself. Grow and learn. Accept ones faults for the failure of relationship. Learn. Grieve the loss of the relationship.
Reborn. I am in control of my life. I am the only person I need for true happiness. I have surrounded myself with family and friends. I have healthy boundaries in place for those relationships. I am healed and prepared to determine the next phase in my life.
Life alone. Meet someone. Determine if their goals match yours. Set healthy boundaries and commit to a relationship that both of you want or end it and meet someone determine if their goals match yours. Set healthy boundaries and commit to a relationship that both of you want or end it and meet ...
Nowhere is it written who that someone may be. Could be someone you already know, who has touched your heart, who has lacerated your heart , who is a complete stranger.
