Originally Posted By: avermont
It could happen, maybe, that I would like the guy enough to help me detach and move on?


That's not how it works. You can't use somebody as an emotional crutch to get you out of your sitch. All that does is postpone you dealing with yourself and then you will end up have an bad R with this guy because of it.

The best advice I read is that when you actually don't want to date, that is when you are ready (Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus - Starting Over).

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So, how to get out without being unfair to potential dates?


You don't. And let's be crude about it, unless you are both just looking for uncomplicated sex (it's a basic need), which is completely different from a R, you shouldn't be doing it, IMO.

Last edited by P17; 12/13/09 09:45 PM.
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