K, [quote] for giving me permission to get my stuff from OUR house".. [/uote]
An important (IMO) distinction to be made is that is may be "our" house, but it is now "your" home. If he is being "pissy" this will be lost on him and the trick is to say it as neutrally as possible.
I'd like to say that I'm pretty good at being non-reactive, but the couple of times I've really spoken from the heart, I know he has "heard" me. Having heard me though didn't change anything outwardly. My H (actually all of us but maybe my D14) are introverts, so you don't always see outward displays.
I thought his response to the "not hating each other and major blow ups" was different. How about a fing hug! Just me, but I'm on a bit of a tear today.
Chel,
I know the advise is to be business like. My own responses are not always so. I do tend to at least respond with a "thank you". Of course in my case, the lack of responses from H even before he left was a sore spot. He's gotten better (mostly) and it falls into the category of teaching people how we will accept being treated. It can be done nicely (mostly ).
I hope that you both are doing ok. I know how hward it is.
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