UPDATE: not good. Met at church. Ran an errand after for our 4 yr olds bday party tomorrow, took the boys back, and I found out on the way home that wife spent the day at the dbag's house with the boys, when she promised she wouldn't introduce the boys to him. So she is simply out of control now, and I know I need to file official separation papers. Will be contacting an attorney ASAP. In the meantime, I need help (I have the rest of Sun to feel the shock of this...ugh) focusing on what I need to do to protect myself with the separation agreement.
I'm going to take her off my business account. I'm also going to have her pay bills that are hers (her car payment, birth control, credit cards, etc). Should I also drop her from our family phone plan? Probably, right?
I called her immediately (i know, bad idea) after I found out, and she was defensive, and hung up on me. Stated that she hasn't gotten lodging yet, but that she is now thinking about an apartment, which is great bc she will have to pay for that on her own. She really just is in la-la land (the fog). It's insane. I know everyone here understands that and has been there. I just can't believe people function like that-in total denial.
I think what's hardest is the burden of being strong and honorable through all this. I'm trying to model what a strong man is for my two little boys. Wife just keeps pushing and lying, etc. I know I don't trust anything she says, but some part of me keeps getting surprised when she escalates her inappropriate behaviors.
Ugh. Fire away, I'm all ears. Will be finding attorneys on Monday and making visits to them on Tuesday. I can deal with her being away from me and the boys. I can't deal with her trying to come and go, taking the boys to see the dbag in hopes that they will like him, etc.
