Coping with Bi-Polar WAW

[Kettricken]

I'm sure the infidelity heavy hitters will be along to throw down soon.

Personally, there's something kinda icky about a situation involving four people where three people know an important secret and the fourth is oblivious. I'm all for disclosure.

The suicide/unstable thing..... well, for my money, if OM was all that concerned about her oh-so-fragile mental state, he'd not have been running around town with your wife, would he now? I don't mean to sound insensitive, but the mental/emotional states of others are not your responsibility, and I think everyone has a right to know about their mate's infidelity. Nobody can predict how she will react. It might, in fact, be liberating.

The only time I think it's skeevy to reveal is when it's motivated strictly by vengeance.

In your case, would it harm or help the chances of your marriage? Impossible to say (IMHO).

What do you think is the right thing to do?