Hi im having somewhat something like ur going thro but backwards and ill tell u its hard to be on the dark side .... when my husband don’t or hasn’t called in 5days but ... im here still hoping that he might even if its just to tell me its done... hoping to a waiting call is very hard to do and yes I have begged him to ... but just to see him and see if the feelings I have are still true he’s only been gone almost 6month and im coping.. with the advice ive gotten here and I know we don’t listen sometimes we want to just get up and get it over with and stop hurting... but ive learn that if u don’t mend ur mind and ur self first u will not be clear in what u really want to do .... ive been saying this for 2weeks only to my self im done cant take this no more ignores is the worst u can do to someone ... and that’s what’s being done to me... when u love someone sometimes u get lost in ur own world of emotions and start shutting down cuz u try and try so much and ur other half dose not meat u there... when u find ur self determine in what u want out of this in ur life u will find a peas of mind within u ... till then ... what ever it is that holds u back from saying the words u wish to her.... its not coming out for a reason... have faith and if u do truly love her even if u think that times right know is tuff... don’t give up in what u want and believe in ur hart to be true but lost... all I can do is tell u how I feel from this side when this happened and still is happening to me I cant advice anything thing cuz I need help my self tiring to cope with him doing that as well... its hard I can say very, very more than anyone can imagine... but I guess we sometimes have to have tuff love alone the way.. sorry did not mean to intrude im here if u need to talk to... bye and good luck


Me: 35 yrs
H: 35 yrs
D: 18 yrs
Married: 21 yrs
H is over seas : July. 2009, "not happy now..confused" "don't know what I want" "I love you, but not in love with you"
Currently: confused and lonely