If I tell him right up front it is for legal fees so we can get the divorce, he is not going to object because it is perpetuating the divorce he wants to be done as well. He wants the divorce he just doesn't want to have to do all the stuff involved to get one. He avoids all conflict by nature and would rather bury his head in the sand than go through this stuff.
So I would rather just tell him that it is for legal fees right up front and that it will help in getting this done in the quickest, cheapest way possible.
AFG, you have proven yourself very smart and resourceful. You know your H better than us. In light of the above, it looks like the right way for you.
You're giving him what he wants. He's lazy and gutless. This is why he brought the whore into your house while you were sleeping in the next room. He expects YOU to do the legwork.
I'm sad to see the SOB getting what he wants, and in the easiest, most convenient way for him. He's not as dumb as he looks.
((((AFG)))) Get what you need. I don't have any 2x4's for you, just moral support.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
