Think OW is here in my house right now!

[Gnosis]

Ok, thought about it more - I will hang onto letter and use later if needed.

I'm happy to hear that.

Dear H –

I have withdrawn $1,000 from the joint checking account for the sole purpose of retaining legal counsel.

I am willing to set up a meeting with you to discuss the terms of our divorce settlement agreement.

Hmm... too business-like and you're still revealing your cards. You don't want him to know you're getting legal advice at the moment.

How about this:

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H,

Something important came up this weekend. I needed to take $1000 from the joint account.

I've had some time to think about the recent events and would like to share my thoughts with you. Let's have coffee tomorrow at 12:00 at XXXXX.
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Non-confrontational, friendly, calm. Non-business like.

After sending you go: NO CONTACT. Do not reply to his calls, emails, texts etc. You meet him for coffee.

At coffee you tell him:
AFG: I think its time we went our separate ways. I'm sure you do too. <pause and wait for confirmation>
AFG: Good, I'm glad you feel that way (or) I'm sorry you feel that way, but this is what's best for me.
AFG: Let's do this the cheapest, quickest way possible. I'm going to find a lawyer and see which is the best way possible.
AFG: Thanks for listening to me.

Then get up and leave. Do NOT argue or become adversarial.