Think OW is here in my house right now!

[aflowergurlie]

I am amazed at your strength. Truly. You are an amazing woman!

I am glad you wrote the letter for YOU. I wrote my H some horrible letters that I never sent but my goodness, they felt great to write!

I kept the info I had about my H and his affair under wraps for 5 months. He knew I knew *something* but had NO IDEA the amount of evidence I had. I really can relate to how difficult it is to keep all this to yourself but it will help you when it comes settlement time. If your H isn't on board with the settlement then you have a very powerful bargaining chip on your side that your attny will be more than happy to use to your advantage.

As I told my H, you want to play dangerous games... no problem. Just remember I can play too My H and I settled about 95% of our affairs between us and my attny handled the rest. Lets just say I am very pleased with the settlement I got myself.

Do not give your H any info at all. I know it might just be one of the hardest things you have to do. For me it was life altering but in the end I am so glad I listened to my attny and followed the plan.

You *can* do this. I know you can.

In my state there are contested and uncontested divorce lawyers, I am trying to keep these proceedings to uncontested where I obtain the lawyer, H and I do the settlement agreement and sign, lawyer does paperwork and we're divorced. If he doesn't agree to settlement, then we would each have to get contested lawyers and which is considerably more expensive (I don't have the money and neither does H right now). I am trying to prevent that with cluing H in that I know enough for him to not want to go that route. Does that make sense or is everyone still thinking I shouldn't let him know?