Think OW is here in my house right now!

[aflowergurlie]

Ok -

I have revised the letter to omit this part (This is to your advantage because a moving truck would have relocated your belongings to OW’s apartment in (city) already, as I’m sure you would be more comfortable there and she wouldn’t mind taking you in for a while while we go through this process.) The rest will remain and taped on kitchen cabinet for him.

To PDT about emailing the letter - I didn't want to email the letter because I wasn't sure when/if H would be checking his email. And I wasn't about to send a text to him saying "you've got mail or check your email." to ensure he received it while they were gone.

Here is what I am accomplishing offensively by giving him this letter:

1) I have clearly stated to H why I have taken the money and what it will be used for. I don't want him coming to me and asking why I took it.

2) He will clearly see that I have done my research on the law (while he has not) and he can't kick me out of the house nor withdrawal his financial support (stop paying any of the bills, even if he should choose to leave at this point). These have been a part of his continued threats and now that his secret is out, it protects me because he won't be able to retaliate in this manner.

3) It gives him a clue that I now know about all of his activities and should he choose to fight this and not accept settlement, it will cost him more in the end. He will see that this is his one time only offer to take to resolve things more quickly and less costly.

4) This is helping to get things moving more quickly along MY timeline, not his, because his would be never-ending.

As with what Kimmie said - yes, this is curtailed to someone like my H, not for your general person who would be up for a fight at all costs even though they are clearly in the wrong. Also, H already has one legal strike on record against him for the very thing that he is involved with now. And there are plenty of more suprise elements ahead should he want to go contested.