Not sure if this qualifies as piecing or not...

[Deep]

Went to retro many months before I even heard of DB or MWD .

On hindsight, perhaps we went too early, when emotions were so raw, although that had benefits too. I'll say this - it really helped save my M, and I mean save it in truly re-connecting with the W again. I've posted on it in my thread but a brief summary is:

- Sitch aside, W is not Catholic and pretty much a strident agnostic.
- At that point, W wanted to try for the kids, but was convinced OM was her true love that she may have to give up to "do her duty". She was not in love with me, although she cared for me, and felt no connection with me, be it in kissing, talking, whatever. In other words, the fog was still strong.
- W wanted to leave on the way there, wanted to leave 5 minutes into it, wanted assurance we could leave any time.
- W "felt the connection" again when we kissed end of 2nd day at weekend.
- W felt we talked more and deeper than we did for the last few years in the 3 days there.
- W thanked me for making her try the weekend on the way home, thanked me for giving us another chance when we got home. Broke down when we unpacked, just hugged me and kept saying "sorry, I'm so sorry". It was the first time I really believed she was.
- W did not buy into ALL of retro, still finds parts of it not for her, but that the overall experience saved "us". She's still agnostic. But we go back to help every weekend now, simple things like registration and being porters / helpers. Shocked me when she started talking to couples there and what a WAS gpes through - she HATED the idea of talking about the A and what she did, this is a big thing for her.
- Our Core (continuing the retro experience) group that meets up now has Christians, Hindus, free thinkers. Religion does not enter into it, we support each other in the re-building of our Ms.

Hope this helps and glad to see you here Trent!