-STBXW is engaged to OM and their wedding is set for a few days after the separation officially hits the one-year mark. I'm good with it. Honestly, I see what she is like - the things she now chooses to value, the people with whom she surrounds herself, how she carries herself- and I have ZERO interest in ever wanting to associate with her again. If it weren't for our kids, I'd have nothing to do with her. Because of our children, I realize that we will always be a part of each other's lives, but I have chosen to make our children the ONLY reason our lives intersect. We're amicable and even have friendly chit-chat when we interact (hell, even her fiance has decided to become chatty with me). She sees us as "good friends" and has told a lot of people that, but I just see it as being a rational adult recognizing that being unpleasant helps neither party and hurts the kids.
My kids are doing well and are adjusting to the idea of their mom and her fiance being married.
- After a year and a half of therapy and taking my time getting my head and heart together, I became open to the possibility of dating. Not actively pursuing anything, but just not dismissing opportunities if they came my way. And deciding to go VERY slow. And, just by sheer accident, an opportunity came my way and I'm slowly, cautiously, (and very happily) allowing things to unfold.
Things are good. Hope everyone has a great holiday season!
Me: 47 Kids: 2 boys, 14 & 8 Bomb: 5/5/08 Married: 16 years, together 20 Divorce final 8/11/10 I remarried, to an amazing woman: 3/17/12... "Once in awhile, in an ordinary life, love gives us a fairy tale"
