feel like giving up - talk to me!

[Gardener]

Trent - I'm not depressed just sad that my H may not love me anymore lol jeez

I agree with you. When i was in the throes of depression, I obsessed about dreaded, anguished over just two things; 1)absolutely nothing and 2) absolutely everything. After meds kicked in, Dr. asked me how I felt. My answer? Absoluteky miserable hopeless, discouraged and sad. Except now I know why!

[Gardener]

a He still initiates conversation and will say, "you wanna get something to eat"**...should I say "you go ahead?" A simple, sincere, "No thank you." should cover it nicely, benignly and sufficiently.

as the my kids say, "FML" (f*ck my life)

Or, " Fulfill My Life."

**Why, oh why do so many men males word things that way? Like, "Please decide for us; it's up to you."

[Gardener]

I know G..

Sometimes I feel pathetic for being on here...like look what I'm doing and he doesn't give a sh*t.
Sometimes I feel noble for being on here...like look at all I'm doing even though he doesn't give a sh*t. Well, I do!. There. Better?
ok - I'm done venting - wish me luck guys - I think this weekend is gonna be scary.

oh yeah mind...I will do that exactly! thank you and you too have a good weekend.

[luvless]

quick update - fri nite/sat was great - best weekend ever - it was like having my old H back. I don't get it you guys - I just don't. I'll come back and give you dynamics so you can let me know what you think.

XOXO
Luv

[Lll54]

Sounds good, can't wait to hear about it!

[Kimmie Lee]

luvless, I think you are being gaslighted; being set up for the big finish. You say he is getting a big promotion? And he's so full of himself right now?

The times when he's being "nice" are just part of the process, kind of like you're his "good-for-now girl." Exhibit A: the office party. He needed his nice, respectable wife to stand at his side.

I think you should be gone more often when he gets home, breeze in and out of the house at odd hours, go to the movies, bookstore, whatever. Just stop being available to him anymore.

My heart aches for you, but I know that you can pull yourself together enough to do some big 180's.

[mindfull]

Luv... glad you had a good Fri/Sat. How was Sun???

You need to get rid of the green guy on your status! You look better smiling, with a little more warmth in your coloring!

[luvless]

I hate to have to agree with you Kimmie but I do. I have already been thinking this way. Yeah he has an offer to be a bank pres and in Jan so who knows. He talks about wanting to buy a new house and talks about future travel but who knows - we don't believe anything they say right?

My heart aches all right but I'm starting to get a little numb by the emotional abuse and back and forth bullsh*t.

I need to stop being so available - you are right it's just hard because he is the one pursuing and I don't want to reject. He really is ridiculous about that - he hates when I reject him so I don't want to be perceived that way but goes against what DB is all about right?

Again I'm sorry to say I agree with you. He may just be setting me up. UGH!!!!

[luvless]

Hey mind - ok so I changed my guy to I don't know WTF to think guy lol I'm already sick of this and poor G has been dealing for 7 months? (shaking head)

I prayed for all of you at church this Sunday - only knew your nicknames but I was callin them out

[TrentC]

Hey mind - ok so I changed my guy to I don't know WTF to think guy lol I'm already sick of this and poor G has been dealing for 7 months? (shaking head)

It's not easy, but doing the right thing rarely is. Have faith that, in the end, things will work out the way they're meant to.

I prayed for all of you at church this Sunday - only knew your nicknames but I was callin them out

I do the same thing. God knows who we're talking about, even if we don't.