LOL. I have seen the consequences enforced, but the wronged spouse has to make an effort. I saw it firsthand when my husband went after my ex-OM.
You're right, a lot of the time the rules are NOT enforced. Commanders sweep offenses under the rug or don't push hard enough for punishment. Many times in a situation like mine, the spouse won't push either because it's themselves they end up hurting. Because the first thing that happens is they get an article 15, lose rank, and lose pay. When bills are barely being covered as it is, it is hard to attack your source of income, no matte how much you want to.
And you have to be able to prove it usually. "he said" "she said" doesn't get it done. Even with proof, typically the military will find another reason to get rid of a philandering soldier, allowing him to be honorably discharged without disciplinary action.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
