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If it sounded like I was whining, it wasn't my intent. Sometimes you just need to b*tch.

It's called a "victim puke" in No More Mr. Nice Guy lingo. Now that you've purged, enforce some boundaries.

I looked but didn't see a transparency agreement. With you out of the way, she is free to wreck your marriage willy-nilly with all-forgiving Jesus on her side.

Make sure that transparency is there.

I would also set a boundary of what constitutes "working on her demons".
Wife, this arrangement is at your request for the purpose of "working on you". You need to be accountable for that. I need to know that you are (for example)
1) meeting weekly with pastor
2) taking your medication
3) interacting positively with the children
4) maintaining transparency
5) maintaining integrity in your communications with me and others (STOP LYING)

If you can not do these simple things, our agreement is null and void. I will be returning to the marital bed within 24 hours for the good of our family. Have I used any words which you do not understand?

Brudda, I know it's hard. Holding my wife accountable is like nailing jello to a wall. I don't always get there.

In this case, SHE wants something (you in an apartment). Only YOU have the power to grant it. SHE will have to live by YOUR terms to get what SHE wants. I can't go into Wal-Mart and demand the 47" LCD TV for $3.99USD. It's their TV. You have the TV. Set the price.
(This should not be taken as an endorsement of moving out, but you got to start somewhere.)

Sometimes strength and honor means taking a blow. Sometimes it means doing some very unpleasant things.
Gird your loins with the WHOLE armor of God and strike a blow for your family.

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