I hope that you and (OW’s real name) aka (OW's escort name) are having a great time in (City), NC. I wanted to let you know a few things that I have discovered and/or decided while you are away:
1) In the eyes of the law, it can be considered a squandering of marital assets when a spouse uses any funds for, with, or given to any third party outside the marriage. A case for retribution of said funds to the innocent party, outside of any alimony awardment, may be made during divorce proceedings, especially if illegal and unlawful activities have been involved. A totaling of almost $10,000 has been accounted for thus far in the use for your activities of adultery during these past several months. In light of this finding, I have withdrawn $1,000 from our joint checking account for the purposes of retaining my legal counsel.
2) In the eyes of the law, neither party of a marriage can forcibly evict the other party out of their home. (This is to your advantage because a moving truck would have relocated your belongings to OW’s apartment in (city) already, as I’m sure you would be more comfortable there and she wouldn’t mind taking you in for a while while we go through this process.) Neither can the primary supporter of the family withdrawal their financial support to the other party of the marriage. In cases where one does withdrawal financial support, the divorce paperwork may be filed and an immediate temporary financial need injunction may be issued.
3) It would also be to our advantage, cost-wise and time-wise, to come to a settlement agreement on the division of our assets, debts, physical property, and the terms of my monthly financial support. I am willing to set up a meeting with you soon to discuss these items further.
Enjoy the rest of your trip – AFG
Last edited by aflowergurlie; 12/13/0912:33 AM.
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
You are holding up remarkably well. And even if you're screaming and crying and not telling us then you're still doing remarkably well.
I think it is in your best interest to have as much proof as possible or as directed by your attorney. If it does get to be too much then for your own emotional health, stop.
You do deserve a break from your house. I hope you're able to get out and spend some time with friends or doing something to take your mind off things. Then make that appointment at the shooting range.
I for one know the healing power of a spending spree. It is good for the soul to look pretty and feel fabulous. If it just isn't possible right now, there must be a place nearby where you can get a cheap manicure. A nice hand massage and parafin dip is very relaxing.
I am impressed by Dr. Gno's prescription shopping list, he certainly nailed everything that I went out and bought! And if you happen to wear a size 7.5 shoe, I'd be happy to send you the pair of sassy purple pumps I bought early in my spree (it lasted a couple months). They aren't FM heels, but they're cute and they were decadent because I had nothing to wear with them and they symbolized me doing something for me because I'm worth it. And you deserve that feeling too!
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I am impressed by Dr. Gno's prescription shopping list, he certainly nailed everything that I went out and bought!
Aww, shucks Pearl!
Confession: I've been around women all my life. So you can say I learned from the best by paying attention. Only problem is I stupidly filed all my knowledge away thinking it was unnecessary the last few years of my M.
Ok, so didn't send the email, but rather the following letter has been typed, printed, and taped to a kitchen cabinet for H to receive when he returns home.
-------------------------- Dear H –
I hope that you and (OW's real name) a.k.a. (OW's escort name) had a great time on your trip in (city), North Carolina. I wanted to let you know of a few things that I’ve been informed of while you were away;
1) In the eyes of the law, it can be considered a squandering of marital assets when a spouse uses any funds for, with, or given to any third party outside the marriage. A case for retribution of said funds to the innocent party, outside of any alimony awardment, may be made during divorce proceedings, especially if illegal and unlawful activities have been involved. A totaling of almost $10,000 has been accounted for thus far in the use for your activities of adultery during these past several months. In light of this finding, I have withdrawn $1,000 from the joint checking account for the sole purposes of retaining legal counsel.
2) Additionally, neither party of a marriage can forcibly evict the other party out of their home. (This is fortunate for you, because a moving truck would have relocated your personal belongings to (OW's real name/OW’s escort name) apartment in (city) already, although I’m sure you would’ve been more comfortable there anyhow and she wouldn’t mind taking you in while we go through this process.) Neither can the primary supporter of the family withdrawal their financial support to the other party of the marriage. In cases where one does withdrawal financial support, the divorce paperwork may be filed and an immediate temporary financial need injunction may be issued.
3) It would also be prudent, cost-wise and time-wise, for us to come to a settlement agreement outside of litigation on the division of our assets, debts, physical property, alimony terms, and any other items. I am willing to set up a meeting with you soon to discuss the terms of the agreement.
Enjoy the rest of your day – AFG ------------------------------------
I withdrew the money last night.
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
You are holding up remarkably well. And even if you're screaming and crying and not telling us then you're still doing remarkably well.
I think it is in your best interest to have as much proof as possible or as directed by your attorney. If it does get to be too much then for your own emotional health, stop.
You do deserve a break from your house. I hope you're able to get out and spend some time with friends or doing something to take your mind off things. Then make that appointment at the shooting range.
I for one know the healing power of a spending spree. It is good for the soul to look pretty and feel fabulous. If it just isn't possible right now, there must be a place nearby where you can get a cheap manicure. A nice hand massage and parafin dip is very relaxing.
I am impressed by Dr. Gno's prescription shopping list, he certainly nailed everything that I went out and bought! And if you happen to wear a size 7.5 shoe, I'd be happy to send you the pair of sassy purple pumps I bought early in my spree (it lasted a couple months). They aren't FM heels, but they're cute and they were decadent because I had nothing to wear with them and they symbolized me doing something for me because I'm worth it. And you deserve that feeling too!
Thanks Pearl! - I am not screaming and crying...yet. Seems like my cycle has been that the shock and adrenaline of things keeps me going for a couple of days without a tear and then I start "feeling" again and that's when it starts.
I spent yesterday organizing, cleaning and all caught up on laundry which helped me process my thoughts and put together that letter. I actually got some sleep last night, much-needed at that.
Today, I am getting out of the house and going to visit with friends/family for the day. And tomorrow I have a hair appt and some shopping to do.
Funny - I DO wear a 7.5 too and just bought some purple F-me heels as well not too long ago, LOL.
Me-34 XH-33 No Kids We were M-12Y T-15Y 5/09 Same house-separate bedrooms 01/10 I filed for D / H moved out 09/16/10 Divorced
Aww, shucks Pearl!