First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Hey Addie, thanks for stopping by.

No, we've never gone to MC. W has said she doesn't believe in them. And you need to be really careful as I've read other places that most MC's can make the situation worse off than better.

I've found out recently that we were piecing for quite a long time without even knowing it. Probably 4 months or more that W knew she wanted to stay and really did love me, and really, probably 6 months before that that we were piecing our marriage together without knowing where we were headed.

And it IS REALLY DIFFICULT. I remember a comment someone made to me on another website when my W's A ended. This guy told me, "You think you've got it made now? Think again. Busting the A up was easy, now's the hard part". And he is absolutely right. This piecing chit is HARD.

I still go through periods of anger and resentment. I've tried to look at it logically and I think, at least for me, that I've discovered those periods of anger and resentment come when I'm feeling unsure of myself or our marriage. Maybe it's the same for you? Cuz once W does something that reassures me, that anger and resentment seems to go away. What's that say about me?

More to ponder while navigating this piecing minefield.

Hope this helps.