I remember a time when the people here were actually closer to me then my own family and a time when we depended on each other just to get through another day of MLCBS.
Yes....
Detach, detach detach!!!
You have no other choice, because if you let every single little thing they do and say get under your skin you will turn into a basketcase.
Work on being the very best person you can be but for yourself NOT your spouse.
You can count babysteps and analize until you are blue in the face and all it will do is drive you even crazier.
Being a LBS with children is scarier then anything you have ever gone through, but you had better get your arse off the ground, stop the pity party and take a deep breathe because it is a long journey. There is work to do, so don't waste this time alone doing nothing.
And at the end of it you will be a totally different and hopefully better person regardless if you are reconcilled, divorced or in a new relationship.
You will know when the end has come, whether it is because you can't take it anymore, or if it is because you are at peace with actually letting go or because your WAS wants another chance.
You will survive, and you will come out on the other side.
Blessings,
Happy Happy Holidays!!!!
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
