New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

Your comment on the role reversal is very insightful!

Michele talks about the teeter-totter phenomenon in DR a few times - when one spouse becomes calm the other becomes more angry.

Sounds like a productive R talk, as much as they can be at least!

Glad you got the extra day with the kids.

Sounds like you did a good job validating and balanced that with some boundary setting. Good job on staying calm!!!!

I'm sure she's got lots of food for thought now! Back off, try and stay away from any R talk, keep contact happy and create more good memories so that she has to think about whether she really wants to refile after the holidays (and keep in mind that even if she does you have months in which to continue to DB).

Good job all around!!!!