i don't think he could have even been put on my house, i think they check immigration? but i don't know for sure. he tried like crazy to get me to put him on and i said well then put me on your truck, knowing he couldn't do it got dropped.
i'm sure that was a another crushing blow to his ego and manhood that he couldn't provide a home for his family, but he sure does for his mommie and daddie now.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
My sister married a hispanic man, and he is very committed to his mother, it drives her crazy, but he is in the Army, so they dont live anyplace near his mother. But his mother is constantly coming up with fictitious emergencies that require his immediate attention.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
my h is one of 6 children and he is the one despite having a wife d2 and another child on the way, she clings to him like he's her surrogate husband.
it's not all on her, it's on him, i think he's comfortable being their saving grace, go to son despite it causing stress and fights between us.
it was all good when i went with what she wanted and did things for her but as soon as i stood up to her it was jstar is not teh woman for you son. she's trying to kill the baby's she's pregnant with.
not even knowing the self guilt that i had for having a miscarriage, now i got the mil from h$#$ whispering that in his ears, she even said that about my pregnancy now. h says oh no i told her you inject medication every day to keep the baby alive, but i will never be good enough for her son until he stands up to her and puts me before them. that i will never see.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
i'm not going to text him. i just vented for a few mintues in word. just realizing how anger i still am and i don't know if i will not ever be angry.
thing is the other children have told her no and my h will always say yes. i don't think he is smart enough to not believe what his mother is saying to him.
i just think about all the problems we have and i don't see an out for them. the mil, his friends, trust, resentment.
when i was talking to my nieces boyfriend, i said i really do not know what to do and it is still true. i have no clue how i am going to proceed in this situation. i'm not going to pressure myself or let h pressure me into something.
i have one week left of work then on vacation for 2, it will be the new year, like that matters, but in january even more so i will be even more focused on this little boy that will be arriving.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
I just went over his msgs and only one only 1 he asks to see d2. and he put it on her, i know d2 misses me and wants to see her father. a 2 yr old wants to see her father, wTF, he does not even say i miss d2, lets set up some visitation, in his msgs he just asks if she's okay.
i don't know it may be just me, but isn't that messed up?
he hasn't not seen her since nov 25.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
h hasn't texted since friday night. h's msg. thank u. this time last year we were on our way to church. i see you will always be the same. how are my kids?
my response: i am working on changing me, i hope you are changing you. Perfect.
or should i just remain silent? he's kind of trying to goat me into responding i know i want to, i don't know if it's to soon or not.
it's like if i keep remaining silent nothing is going to change, right? or just let him keep going in the manner he is until the holidays pass or atleast another week.
Advice?
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
h hasn't texted since friday night. h's msg. thank u. this time last year we were on our way to church. i see you will always be the same. how are my kids?
my response: i am working on changing me, i hope you are changing you. Perfect.
Ignore any talk of the R or the M.
Your response should have been:
"Kids are fine".
Nothing more.
Don't acknowledge his cr*p by responding to it.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
i think i'm trying to avoid getting into argument or battle of the texts. like maybe it will open him up to want to talk to me. or he's going to be like oh thank you for letting me know.
i'm just scared to respond back to him. plain and simple, i'm scared to respond to his msg.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
