Can I save my marriage?

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P.S. Thanks everybody for having patience with me. I feel like I get to a stage where I'm doing good, and its working which it has been, then I'm pushed into a new stage and have to relearn all the tactics all over again.

Ex. When H was not at home, it took a bit, but I got a handle on things. Now he is home again, and its hard to re adjust to this new way of handling things. I'm trying, I really am. I want to succeed, I want to fix my marriage. I know everybody is trying to help me not help my marriage fail. Its just hard sometimes.

My H also has emotion problems. Meaning he has no idea how to handle them. So there is certain things I'm told to say or do. And with a typical human being it may work, but with my H it just backfires, cause he doesn't react to things the way most people would. I feel like I have to twist things a little to get the reaction I'm looking for. And don't always know how to do that. So believe me when I say " I appreciate everything, and I am really trying to follow your advice daily"

And after today, I feel a lightbulb may have turned on for me. The same lightbulb that turned on about 6 weeks into separation. It just takes a while for me to adjust. Thanks for the patience! I will need more! And more words of advice! I may need step by step help actually. That's how I feel sometimes.